Just rediscovered my blog.  Horrified to see how H was exercising coercive control over me - he refused to get a job and said I was racist for suggesting he should do so instead of 'pursuing his dream' of becoming an accountant.  I eventually found him a free ACCA course at Hackney Community College, which kept him out of the job market for another year or so, while he took one of the exams 7 times.  He found a job with an African woman who ran a community organisation, doing the bookkeeping for it, but had a row with her about providing receipts for fabrics bought for an event, and also found it very challenging working for a female.  He resigned before she sacked him.